The Education of children in Islam
Clarifying how to educate children at an early age and contribute to the improvement of their moral qualities.
From the book: “the EXHORTATION to the BELIEVERS” Shaykh Muhammad Jamal al-DIN al-Qasimi
The importance of raising a child
Know that child rearing practices are among the most important cases, because the child is the fact that placed in the custody of his parents, and his pure heart is a precious jewel, on which there are no images. It is possible to draw anything, and it can be persuaded to anything, and if the child will accustom to the good and will teach you how to do it, he will grow from this and be happy in both worlds, and his reward will share with him his parents and all those who taught and raised him. If you teach a child to evil and not to give it attention, if it is not a man but an animal, he will be unfortunate and will die, and the burden of sin will suffer for it he who was obliged to follow him, because Allah Almighty said: “O you who believe! Protect yourselves and your families from a Fire…” (“Prohibition”, 6).
No matter how hard the father to protect their child from the fire of this world, to protect it from the eternal Fire of peace even more important. This can be achieved, if the father wants to bring up her child, instilling in him a worthy moral qualities, protecting him from bad companions, accustomed to luxury and not revealing to him the love this life jewelry and exceptional facilities, since this would lead to the fact that, growing up, he will spend all his life to achieve this, and will be lost forever, and should therefore monitoring should be implemented from the beginning.
To monitor the child should begin as soon as will begin to form his mind, a symptom of what are the first signs of shame. When the child begins to shy and stop doing some things, it indicates the awakening of the mind, in turn which is the good news that his moral qualities came to harmony, and his heart was cleansed.
How to teach your baby to distinguish the good from the bad
The child who already feels shame, we need to pay attention and help by bringing him a sense of shame and the ability to distinguish right from wrong. As for qualities, the first child wakes up in the greed for food, and should teach him to ensure that he took food only with your right hand, saying the words “in the name of Allah” /Bi-media-Llah/ took something that lies next to him, didn’t start eating before others, did not look closely at the food or for those who are sitting at the table, not in a hurry, well chewed, was missing one piece after another and does not stain hands and clothing.
We must teach the child to be content with little
In addition, a child should learn sometimes to be content with only bread so that he didn’t think the bread is always definitely there is only something else, and to instill in him an aversion to eating too much food by comparing objigayusche with animals, disapproval in his presence such children who do this, and praise addressed to those who show moderation in eating. In addition, the child should be accustomed to the fact that he shared his food with others, less thought about food and was content with coarse food, whatever it was. In addition, boys should instill a love for clothes, made of silk, constantly explaining to them that such clothing is intended only for women, but men should consider wearing her shameful for themselves. If the boy will put on silk clothes, he needs to Express censure. And it shall be retained from contact with bad companions.
Should teach children the Qur’an and the hadith of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘ alayhi WA sallam
At some stage you need to teach the child that he became acquainted with the Quran, the hadith and stories of the pious and the love of the righteous people crush his soul. When the child will begin to show signs of virtue and to perform meritorious deeds must be rewarded for this that will bring him joy, and praise him in front of other people, and if he once goes contrary to this, it is not necessary neither to notice nor to disclose it to others, especially in the case when the child tries to hide it, for the statement that he made, can lead to the fact that the child will grow bolder and cease to fear publicity. If he would do something like that again, he should be a censure secretly, to try to make him believe that he has committed a serious offense, and say: “in No case, more than anything, for if people will know, you will swear at one another in front of them!”
How and when to punish children
However, it is not necessary every time to blame it on too long, as this may result in censure and making inappropriate will seem to him something minor, and the words will cease to have an impact on his heart. May the father always speaks to him in a certain way and blames it only occasionally. As for the mother, it must impress upon the child the fear of the father and to keep him from just inappropriate.
Must nip the development in the child habits to hide and deceive
In addition, you must keep the child from all the things that occur to them secretly, because he wouldn’t lurk, if not considered a bad thing; when will he get used to the fact that he was being held against such things, we will cease to do evil. A certain part of the day definitely need to get him to move and do some exercises, so they are not overcome by laziness.
In addition, should not be allowed to gloat in front of his friends than any of that, than his own parents or his food and clothing, accustoming them to show humility, respect and courtesy with each of those with whom he communicates. And it is necessary to forbid the child to take money from other children, explaining to him that elevates man what he gives and not what it takes, and what to take from others is low, because it behaves and the dog that wags its tail in anticipation of the piece have to give her. In short, the child should be instilled an aversion to the acquisition of gold and silver, and to warn him of this more often than children warn against snakes and Scorpions, for the scourge of love for gold and silver is not only for children but for adults and even worse the harm that may inflict poison.
You should educate children in the love of modesty in their actions and speeches
In addition, the child should hold a multitude of words, explaining to him that it is a sign of shamelessness and what is the quality characteristic of low people. And it shall be retained from oaths, regardless of whether they are truthful or false, that he had not been accustomed to it since childhood. And it should be taught to listen carefully to what they say elders, and to show respect towards them. And it shall be retained from idle talk, foul language, pronouncing curses and swearing, as well as communication with those who often says things like that because it can only come from bad companions, and the principal in the process of raising children is to prevent them communicating with bad companions.
Need to nurture a child’s sense of respect for parents and elders
In addition, it is necessary to accustom the child to listen and respect their parents, teachers, educators, and all the relatives and other people who is older.
You should accustom the child to perform obligatory acts of worship
When the child is already well understood, it should not be neglected ablution and prayer. He should enjoin fasting on some days of Ramadan and teach him the necessary commandments of Shariah, instilling in him a fear of theft, eating the forbidden, treachery, lies and all obscene. When he grows up, we can talk to him about it in more detail.