Sex after pregnancy, sex after childbirth when possible
Many women claim that for the first time sex after childbirth was like “the first time”.
There are some lucky women who are still in the hospital dreaming about how they’ll have sex after giving birth. And, tellingly, soon successfully turn my dream into reality. But such, alas, quite a bit. Statistics say that about 50% of new mothers have problems in sexual relations for three months after birth, and 18% of these problems continue throughout the first year. How and when can they be overcome?
Sex after pregnancy, when can you?
To start sex after childbirth can be no earlier than 4-6 weeks after delivery .
This requirement is primarily due to the fact that during this period, the uterus gradually returns to its previous, earlier size, heals the place of attachment of the placenta (after the placenta during childbirth was separated from the uterine wall, and in its place remained a solid wound surface). If unhealed wound during sexual intercourse get infected, it could end endometritis (inflammation of the uterus).
The vagina should also come back – after birth because it is stretched. Most of the sixth week after birth, it gradually decreases in size. To help him do it, gynaecologists advised to perform Kegel exercises, muscles of the perineum and vagina.
In the middle of the last century gynecologist Arnold Kegel invented them to women after childbirth have problems with involuntary urination. It later turned out that these exercises also enhance sexual vitality, improve blood circulation, and even allow you to control the orgasm. To feel exactly which muscles need to train, try during urination to stop the urine stream. The muscles that you did, and have the muscles of the perineum. Now your task – learn to their maximum stretch and relax, first in slow, and then at a fast pace. This can be done at any time – while walking, watching TV, lying in bed etc.
It would seem that if the birth took place by caesarean section, then such problems should not occur, and sex can be enjoyed almost immediately after birth. Indeed, the vagina is not shown in this case no changes, but the wound at the site of attachment of the placenta needs to heal just the same as after a natural childbirth. In addition, the uterus remains a scar, which heals within those 4-6 weeks (the seam on the belly skin could heal much sooner).
Sex after pregnancy: there is no desire
It so happens that the doctor gives “welcome”, and the woman still doesn’t want any more sex after childbirth. Do not rush to put a diagnosis of frigidity, and better understand why this is happening. The causes can be as obvious, and lies deep in the subconscious.
By and large the Eclipse libido – is a kind of natural given. After all, as long as the baby needs constant maternal care, can survive on its own, following the cub’s mother is still not needed. Therefore, in the body of a recently born women decreases the level of estrogen (the hormone of pleasure), here – increased vaginal dryness, even with a fairly high sexual arousal. If the birth was quite difficult, we subconsciously she wants to take revenge on the partner moved for suffering.
The reasons why don’t want to have sex after giving birth:
extreme fatigue (often in combination with a frown on her husband, who helps neither the child nor on the farm), it is expressed most often in the phrase: «I don’t feel like sex!”;
feelings of unattractiveness, really, after childbirth a woman’s figure is deprived of the maiden of angularity, but many men find it very attractive;
postpartum depression – this type of depression, occurring in about 10% of women can significantly reduce libido.
And the young mother simply scared to have sex. She might fear, for example, that:
hurt or heal up still. To cope with this fear, well in advance to see a doctor – it will determine whether all is well with you after the birth.
at the crucial moment the child wakes up. Fear leads to tension, and the woman can relax. A good option – not to wait for the night when you will literally fall from exhaustion, and ask grandma or a nanny an hour or two to walk with a child on the street.
she gets pregnant again, and this is now so out of place. Recall that methods of contraception while nobody cancelled. You should only choose the best and optimal way.
Contraception after childbirth
For some reason in the masses accepted belief that when a woman is breastfeeding or until she recovered menstrual cycle, getting pregnant is impossible. This is not so. Moreover, until the cycle is not started or does not become a regular, it’s easy to miss a new pregnancy. Menstruation can begin as early as 28 days after delivery, and may not come during the whole period of lactation, but this does not mean that you are protected from pregnancy. What remains?
Calendar method after childbirth completely inappropriate. He is in the “peaceful” for a time effective only in 50% of cases, and only when menstruation irregular, to hope in him and did not have to.
Concerning hormonal pills doctors opinions diverge. Some argue that the hormones getting in the milk, nebezpecny for a child, others insist that modern hormonal contraceptives, skillfully tailored specifically for you, will not affect the baby. You decide, but in any case do not attempt “assign” hormonal drug – this should be done only by a doctor. In principle, it is quite a reliable tool – it is effective at 97-99%.
There are several options for the introduction of hormonal drug:
actually pills (need to take each day and preferably at the same time);
injection, also known as “birth control shot”, indications and contraindications exactly the same as the pill – changing only the form of application (valid within 8-12 weeks, depending on the type of drug);
contraceptive capsule: are inserted into the skin of the shoulder (valid for 5 years, and in any time capsule you can remove).
The intrauterine device is effective on 98%, but to put it no earlier than 6 weeks after delivery and provided that you have a chronic gynecological diseases.
Barrier contraception (condoms, diaphragm, spermicide) operate at 85 – 97%. Especially effective is the combination of diaphragm and spermicide (spermicide is applied to the dome of the diaphragm before its introduction).
Like the first time
Many women claim that for the first time sex after childbirth was like “the first time”. It is necessary to have in mind the spouse, burning with passion. It is required now maximum patience and tenderness to resume a loving relationship. For a start, he must share with his wife not only a bed but also housework and child.
To relieve muscle tension well suited massage (especially with the use of essential oils). For starters it is better to choose a pose in which you will be able to control the depth and frequency of penetration – for example, the pose “rider”. To reduce vaginal dryness, you can use special gels and lubricants from sex-shop. It is very important that you do not doubt in its appeal for the partner. Believe me, men look far less demanding than the female.
They say that it is the restoration of sexual relations – this is the end of the postpartum period and the beginning of a new phase of family life. Let it be happy for you!