For kid stealing someone’s thing – it’s natural. While the parents are in a panic.
How to root the children “criminal tendencies”.
My distant cousin Rita is in trouble. Her eight-year-old son max in school caught stealing. At the break stole from the neighbor’s party, a new pencil case. Baby Mama baby prank turned into deep stress. It was a shame in the eyes of the teacher to watch. And matrix complicated dad, Oleg, even took up the belt.
– He has these canisters – even stationery store open! – in tears complaining cool. – That he, his little?!
Really, I’ve never seen Max in anything needed. Costumes – from good shops, a backpack is the most fashionable. Cool and Oleg his son love and a time to chat with them find. And the thief grows?
Children caught stealing many parents. And often the “grasping hands” of the child lead to a very grown-conflicts – with relatives, classmates, teachers. Simply because for us, adults, to steal means to behave badly, to violate the laws. And for them, children? We talked about this with a family and child psychologist at psychological center “On Volkhonka” Maria Serebryakova.
BLAME NOT THE EDUCATION, AND THE BRAIN
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1. Guarantee the unconditional love and acceptance.
Main motto: “WE love you as you are, always!”.
Never put your love to the child depending on his achievements of any kind: good appearance, winning the contest, getting great grades for the control or fives in a quarter!
Your son or daughter must be absolutely sure that your love for him is unconditional and absolute, and that you and all your family would be happy to see him successful, prosperous and popular.
2. Motivate on “achieving success”.
^ The motto: “We all rejoice in your success and progress!”
Repeating his baby, fleshing out exactly who all: all relatives, your friends and co-workers, neighbors, in General, all of whom you will depict his victory. “Imagine how you will admire. “Tanya, Ivan, list buddies child, whose opinion of him significantly. Add that ever after, “when you become an adult and famous, your friends will remember how you lived with you in the same yard, went to the same school.”
3. Exclude motivation “failure avoidance”.
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Adolescence can be difficult and critical. In General is clear, in particular? In particular, it appears that it difficult in the first place for the adolescents themselves. These difficulties consist in the fact that this is a period of rapid sexual development, the difficulty in social interaction. Teenagers are in a dilemma. They are not yet adults but no longer children. Main activity of teenagers is communication with peers. In a team of classmates, friends, yard buddies, they’re all talking more and more about adult life. They want all to be like adults, boys and girls, especially clearly expressed in the exterior. Naturally change their behavior associated with the revaluation of values. Adult life taught them to be polite, honest, decent people. But now they understand that the adults themselves are imperfect. So they react violently to any falsehood from the adults. Adolescents are the whistleblowers. And to find an approach to the teen to make the relationship with the teenager trust, is required to consider a lot of details. The main thing for parents is to reach the level of cooperation with the teenager, although many parents are not ready. It is important to realize that the child grows up, and this process does not stop and does not change. Need to help a child become an adult. To make this process the least Continue reading