Raising children can be different, because there are so many different styles of parenting recognized and not quite. Most often we bring up our children in the same spirit in which we were educated in the family parents. When they become parents themselves, and knowing about all the shortcomings in their education, we are like puppets, we repeat the same mistakes on their own children. Look at these most common styles of parenting, you may recognize in this list your family archetype.
You’d think people who were brought up by liberal parents, absolutely happy. Who wouldn’t want to have parents who can’t sleep tonight as long as you wish, and in the morning, on the contrary, to sleep it off before dinner; go to any parties and events without even asking when the baby will come back; they don’t even mind guys stay in your room and never come to your office without knocking. Alas, people who grew up in such families the lucky ones yourself do not. The problem is that children need boundaries, if not to give them guidelines of what is permitted and not permitted, they become overly spoiled and often don’t know at what point should stop. Talking with a friend who grew Continue reading
1. Guarantee the unconditional love and acceptance.
Main motto: “WE love you as you are, always!”.
Never put your love to the child depending on his achievements of any kind: good appearance, winning the contest, getting great grades for the control or fives in a quarter!
Your son or daughter must be absolutely sure that your love for him is unconditional and absolute, and that you and all your family would be happy to see him successful, prosperous and popular.
2. Motivate on “achieving success”.
^ The motto: “We all rejoice in your success and progress!”
Repeating his baby, fleshing out exactly who all: all relatives, your friends and co-workers, neighbors, in General, all of whom you will depict his victory. “Imagine how you will admire. “Tanya, Ivan, list buddies child, whose opinion of him significantly. Add that ever after, “when you become an adult and famous, your friends will remember how you lived with you in the same yard, went to the same school.”
3. Exclude motivation “failure avoidance”.
^ The motto: “You will become who you want Continue reading
The girl should be quiet, economical and accurate, its merits – a docile and gentle nature, and the main objective – to marry well, become a model housewife and have children. And this is not a description of the methods of education of the Middle ages – this Patriarchal realities of modern Ukraine, where the girls forget to tell that they’re individuals and can build your life, career and family, not being dependent on men. Therapist of Leonid Semakov believes that in this way one of the girls raise free staff.
The middle ages in 2012
When I was preparing for an interview on this topic, to be honest, I doubt that the problem of educating girls in a Patriarchal style now just as relevant as, for example, 30 years ago. But was unpleasantly surprised to find many tips for raising girls frankly humiliating display. For example, how about this: “Educating a girl can do without such approvals as “good”, “well done”, “clever”. Such words of encouragement of a girl forced to be like the boy and strive to achieve success, to obtain the approval. But this will not make her happy. Many women incorrectly educated, strive for achievement, a career, Continue reading