How to raise a child? How to eliminate his complexes and fears? How to force to obey without damaging his psyche? Books with a similar theme so captivated the market of the countries of the former USSR that each child accounts for about 50 methods of proper upbringing and education of children. And confused parents are left wondering what method of education to choose and which one will be the correct one for their beloved child.
Besides research in the field of pedagogy are constantly changing. And if two or three years ago it was believed that the child already since the year should be taught to read, it is now widely believed that all methods of early development only violate the consistent development of the child and take away his childhood.
It is especially difficult to understand the methods of educating parents who are raising a firstborn. Because the lack of experience in the field of training and education of children generates a lot of errors, leading to unpredictable consequences. That, unfortunately, often happens. Why rush inexperienced Continue reading
A child is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be lit
I am a mother. This means that I can give life. Now my task is to maintain this life, we have to worry about food, leisure and health of the baby. But this care of the body. But man is not only body
I brought a child into this world, so I have to introduce him to the peculiarities of this world. To talk about the size of objects, color, shape, materials (fabric, wood, iron, paper, plastic, rubber, clay, glass, clay, wax)
To familiarize with the sounds of human speech, “speech” animals, with songs. To explain that high that low; where far where close; it’s long, short; here narrow, wide here; here are small, there deep. And this is only the beginning, and ahead – reading and arithmetic.
For myself, I decided: “you Cannot delegate their responsibilities for child development on the other: the kindergarten, school. Only I know what should be my child that knows how to treat people and the world in General. Better than me no one knows my child loves it like I do. How can I allow everything to take its course, nothing to explain to the kid to develop his memory, thinking, attention, language, imagination?
The girl should be quiet, economical and accurate, its merits – a docile and gentle nature, and the main objective – to marry well, become a model housewife and have children. And this is not a description of the methods of education of the Middle ages – this Patriarchal realities of modern Ukraine, where the girls forget to tell that they’re individuals and can build your life, career and family, not being dependent on men. Therapist of Leonid Semakov believes that in this way one of the girls raise free staff.
The middle ages in 2012
When I was preparing for an interview on this topic, to be honest, I doubt that the problem of educating girls in a Patriarchal style now just as relevant as, for example, 30 years ago. But was unpleasantly surprised to find many tips for raising girls frankly humiliating display. For example, how about this: “Educating a girl can do without such approvals as “good”, “well done”, “clever”. Such words of encouragement of a girl forced to be like the boy and strive to achieve success, to obtain the approval. But this will not make her happy. Many women incorrectly educated, strive for achievement, a career, Continue reading