Raising children can be different, because there are so many different styles of parenting recognized and not quite. Most often we bring up our children in the same spirit in which we were educated in the family parents. When they become parents themselves, and knowing about all the shortcomings in their education, we are like puppets, we repeat the same mistakes on their own children. Look at these most common styles of parenting, you may recognize in this list your family archetype.
You’d think people who were brought up by liberal parents, absolutely happy. Who wouldn’t want to have parents who can’t sleep tonight as long as you wish, and in the morning, on the contrary, to sleep it off before dinner; go to any parties and events without even asking when the baby will come back; they don’t even mind guys stay in your room and never come to your office without knocking. Alas, people who grew up in such families the lucky ones yourself do not. The problem is that children need boundaries, if not to give them guidelines of what is permitted and not permitted, they become overly spoiled and often don’t know at what point should stop. Talking with a friend who grew Continue reading
How to raise a child? How to eliminate his complexes and fears? How to force to obey without damaging his psyche? Books with a similar theme so captivated the market of the countries of the former USSR that each child accounts for about 50 methods of proper upbringing and education of children. And confused parents are left wondering what method of education to choose and which one will be the correct one for their beloved child.
Besides research in the field of pedagogy are constantly changing. And if two or three years ago it was believed that the child already since the year should be taught to read, it is now widely believed that all methods of early development only violate the consistent development of the child and take away his childhood.
It is especially difficult to understand the methods of educating parents who are raising a firstborn. Because the lack of experience in the field of training and education of children generates a lot of errors, leading to unpredictable consequences. That, unfortunately, often happens. Why rush inexperienced Continue reading
About it in polite society do not speak. Don’t tell over a Cup of coffee, this feeling – or rather, his absence is quickly trying to cover up a polite smile and hide away from prying eyes. “I don’t love my parents” sounds like a confession in a terrible crime.
Why this is so
Once we first take offense to dad and mom. Someone brought up in Spartan conditions, someone took out a daily fatigue, someone suffered from neglect and constant employment of parents. Under-loved, unhappy children, who for years harbored resentment, and then just too tired to fight for parental attention, is one category.
Other – those who had enough of the excessive care and love. Psychologists have many clients who happened to grow up with my mother and grandmother and from experience to experience unbearable heaviness of their love. They dream of escape from the family, but the sense of duty makes to stay. They are constantly taught how to live, what to think, whom to choose as friends. And, barely openevsys, these children run away – first in a student dormitory, then to another city… the country… on another planet. Call out only on holidays and life are already familiar with the cargo dislike mixed with guilt and remorse.
Brutally? Maybe. But honestly. You can suffer Continue reading