Adolescence can be difficult and critical. In General is clear, in particular? In particular, it appears that it difficult in the first place for the adolescents themselves. These difficulties consist in the fact that this is a period of rapid sexual development, the difficulty in social interaction. Teenagers are in a dilemma. They are not yet adults but no longer children. Main activity of teenagers is communication with peers. In a team of classmates, friends, yard buddies, they’re all talking more and more about adult life. They want all to be like adults, boys and girls, especially clearly expressed in the exterior. Naturally change their behavior associated with the revaluation of values. Adult life taught them to be polite, honest, decent people. But now they understand that the adults themselves are imperfect. So they react violently to any falsehood from the adults. Adolescents are the whistleblowers. And to find an approach to the teen to make the relationship with the teenager trust, is required to consider a lot of details. The main thing for parents is to reach the level of cooperation with the teenager, although many parents are not ready. It is important to realize that the child grows up, and this process does not stop and does not change. Need to help a child become an adult. To make this process the least Continue reading
How noisy, unruly, ill-mannered children we notice around you! And what gross mistakes of their mothers – do not make comments on time, ignore the cries, or, conversely, absolutely do not keep yourself in hand, showing monstrous pedagogical failure. All this is true even before that time, while in our family got their little miracle. And here comes an unpleasant discovery – adults feel helpless before the whims and tantrums, and people often see a twisted face the wrath of the mother, not quite knowing how to raise a child.
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Why thousands of wise advice, which seemed so simple and effective, in practice, are not good? How it is that seeing the flaws of others and feeling sorry for kids that moms and dads can’t learn to negotiate, we ourselves fall into the same trap of becoming a parent?
Nurtured from the cradle?
Tiny three-kilogram bag in the elegant envelope with a first hours of life changes all our previous setup, and weak hands firmly grasp the reins, immediately explaining to others, who is in charge now. At this stage many make the mistake of trying to restore the status quo. Kid grumbled, not wanting to leave the mother hand, does not want to sleep, Continue reading
About it in polite society do not speak. Don’t tell over a Cup of coffee, this feeling – or rather, his absence is quickly trying to cover up a polite smile and hide away from prying eyes. “I don’t love my parents” sounds like a confession in a terrible crime.
Why this is so
Once we first take offense to dad and mom. Someone brought up in Spartan conditions, someone took out a daily fatigue, someone suffered from neglect and constant employment of parents. Under-loved, unhappy children, who for years harbored resentment, and then just too tired to fight for parental attention, is one category.
Other – those who had enough of the excessive care and love. Psychologists have many clients who happened to grow up with my mother and grandmother and from experience to experience unbearable heaviness of their love. They dream of escape from the family, but the sense of duty makes to stay. They are constantly taught how to live, what to think, whom to choose as friends. And, barely openevsys, these children run away – first in a student dormitory, then to another city… the country… on another planet. Call out only on holidays and life are already familiar with the cargo dislike mixed with guilt and remorse.
Brutally? Maybe. But honestly. You can suffer Continue reading