How noisy, unruly, ill-mannered children we notice around you! And what gross mistakes of their mothers – do not make comments on time, ignore the cries, or, conversely, absolutely do not keep yourself in hand, showing monstrous pedagogical failure. All this is true even before that time, while in our family got their little miracle. And here comes an unpleasant discovery – adults feel helpless before the whims and tantrums, and people often see a twisted face the wrath of the mother, not quite knowing how to raise a child.
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Why thousands of wise advice, which seemed so simple and effective, in practice, are not good? How it is that seeing the flaws of others and feeling sorry for kids that moms and dads can’t learn to negotiate, we ourselves fall into the same trap of becoming a parent?
Nurtured from the cradle?
Tiny three-kilogram bag in the elegant envelope with a first hours of life changes all our previous setup, and weak hands firmly grasp the reins, immediately explaining to others, who is in charge now. At this stage many make the mistake of trying to restore the status quo. Kid grumbled, not wanting to leave the mother hand, does not want to sleep, Continue reading
In psychology, there is such a cornerstone, this symbol of faith, if you will. It can be expressed in one popular phrase: “we All come from childhood”. So. Parents and children, psychology of relationships of children and parents.
What does it mean this expression: “we All come from childhood” It means that the psychology of all areas and schools believes that childhood is the most important time, when the personality is formed. With all its inclinations, and (unfortunately) with all its neuroses and problems of an adult.
Parents are the adults, which is exhausted for the little man the whole universe, a model of the universe. In the early years the child is isolated from most of the experience, however, most of the experience of being he develops on this “model”.
And here’s enforced isolation takes the child for years. As You can probably guess that in early childhood one year is a lifetime. So imagine that years to five to seven a child lives in a special universe where the gods and the most intelligent and fair creatures are his parents. And more around the little man is nothing.
So if a child grows up with the belief “This world is unfair”, then you need to contact him early OPITO parents may have been Continue reading